“Why are you yelling?” “Turn down your voice.” “Talk quieter.”
Are you always saying these things? Or is it just me?
Bubs must be reminded of this ALL OF THE TIME! (Did I just yell that statement?)
Not long after he was diagnosed with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), I realized that he really didn’t get it. He truly did not realize he was being loud.
I found the idea of creating a Volume Control Chart in a book. (Sorry, I have no idea what the title of the book was.) Desperate to use something to help, I almost immediately sat down at the computer and created my own.
After printing it off, Bubs and I headed outside, discussed, and then practiced each of the five volume levels. Then the sheet was placed on the refrigerator.
Whenever his volume got too high, we walked to the kitchen. I would say, “You are using your ___ voice. When are you supposed to use this voice? I want you to use the number ____ voice. Please show me how this voice sounds.” Then we progressed to “What voice are you using?” and “What voice should you be using?”.
To this day, when Bubs’ voice exceeds the proper level we refer to these numbers. Now I just show him a number on my fingers to show him what voice he should use. The clue helps him understand that he is too loud.
Understand this has 100% solved our volume issues. Just a few weeks ago, an adult friend of ours “yelled” back at Bubs because Bubs was talking so loud to him. Bubs thought it was really funny and had no idea the point our friend was making. So, I pulled him aside and explained why “Fred” yelled back at him.
A natural consequence that we use is that Bubs loses the privilege to talk. When he is unable on his own to turn down his volume, he has to be silent for 5 minutes (one minute per age).
But… the chart has definitely helped. It took an abstract concept and made it visual for him. The loudness is decreasing. Very thankful for that!
You can print the “How Loud is My Volume” chart as well as other Activity and Behavior Charts at ABCJesusLovesMe.