Anger and frustration get Bubs in a lot of trouble. A wise mom suggested that I give him acceptable outlets instead of just telling him “no” or “stop.” I needed to train him to know how to handle his hard situations. He was unable to properly handle the emotions and needed training to learn acceptable behavior.
Yesterday, Bubs and I sat down in his room to talk about appropriate ways to deal with his anger and frustration. We also discussed those inappropriate ways that lead him to trouble. As we were sitting there, I was thrilled to see how Bubs took ownership in the scenerios.
– Bubs may not scream or yell – in his room or at his mommy or daddy. But he may scream into his pillow when he is struggling to get control. I asked him if he wanted to practice but he looked at me funny and said he was in control and didn’t need to scream.
– Bubs may not kick or hit the walls or doors. But he can kick a stuffed toy. Bubs suggested that he kick and punch on a huge stuffed animal bear that he has. Then he said “I can hold him afterward.”
I could see a sense of relief after we talked. He really wanted to find a way to help himself get control. I was really excited about the time we had.