How do I explain what my son needs, like at Sunday school and AWANA, without scaring people to expect the worst, or setting them up to let him get away with everything, using SPD as an excuse for bad behavior.
I think about this question a lot. I don’t want Bubs to have special treatment but I want teachers to understand that sometimes special actions need to occur to help Bubs be able to succeed.
Except for on this blog, only immediate family and our OT know that Bubs has SPD. We have kept it a secret and hope to be able to forever. We do this because we don’t want expectations to change for Bubs. We don’t want people to look at Bubs differently (thus the nicknames for our kids on the blog).
I want to preface my next comments by saying this: Bubs does very well. As with many SPD kids, the parents see the worst. 99% of people would not think there was anything wrong with him. I think this is one of the hard things about getting help because people don’t believe you. It is at home that Bubs totally loses it for hours on end sometimes.
My cousin teaches Special Ed. She told me that Bubs won’t have behavior problems at school but that our afternoons will be pretty hard. He will work SO hard to keep it together at school that once he gets home and relaxes it will be rough.
Not everyone has this same situation. Had we not gotten amazing help, we maybe would be facing this too.
Praise God that I have learned some easy, simple ways to prepare Bubs for company to come, going to a restaurant, and going to church. Visit tomorrow for more detailed tips and suggestions.
Until then, please let your suggestions, questions, and comments.